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Kathy

It's a NEW DAY!

I woke up earlier than usual this morning- slept better than I have for a long time. Ren kissed me good morning and all felt right for the first time in a long time.  

As I had my worship time, I turned on a favorite CD by a group called Avalon. I didn't pay much attention until the song called "new day".

Some of the phrases stood out in ways like never before... 

"The old has passed away the new has come." 

"I put my past behind me- you have covered my mistakes and all my broken dreams."

 "Memories I could not escape don't haunt me anymore."

 "Because of what you've done for me-I don't have to be ashamed."

 The chorus said…

The dawn is drawing near and I realize the sun did rise and it's a new day and a new time.

It's a brand new day."

Reminded me of Jerry Sittser (A GRACE DISGUISED) and his story of the recurring da dream he had in his grief that he was trying to lasso the sun and keep it from going down.  He shared that with his sister and she challenged him "why don't you let go of the lasso and let the sun go down.  Turn east and walk into the darkness.  Wouldn't the sun come up sooner that way."

The morning I first read that chapter I threw the book across the room.  I was sure that the sun would never ever rise again after Leisha died.  I knew it would physically- because it did the morning after she died.  But in my grief, I could never imagine that it would in me!

And yet this morning I realize again, it has! The SON has come up in me!

Avalon sang sang on.  Their next song was  Adonai (the song I sang w my girls as a quartet.  Something we will never do again.  Still one of my deepest griefs).  The chorus sings

 Lord, master

Maker of each moment

Father of hope and freedom

Adonai  is why it's a new day for me today.   He is why today I live, and move and have my being.   He is why I KNOW HOPE and am experiencing freedom. 

The sun did rise...

And it's a new day

 and a new time.

God showed up!

Are you watching for Him in your journey?  Sometimes you have to close your eyes and ask yourself what you are seeing.  I dare you to do it- right now.  

Close your eyes!
Think through the day!
Where did God show up?

He's there for you too!

Rom. 15: 13

May the God of Green HOPE- fill you up with joy, fill you up with peace,
So that your believing lives, filled with the life giving energy of the Holy Spirit
Would brim over with hope.

I have lived Afraid

My blogging of late has been in the personal pages of my journal!  I'm sure I will share some of them at some point, but not yet.  Partly because they are still so personal, partly because I have yet to sort out what I've been thinking and experiencing.  

You can imagine some of the emotions having just had 2 daughters get married within 9 weeks of each other; experiencing empty nest like never before; standing at a threshold of 'what's next' and really longing for clarity.  

But in the mix of it all, I have come to understand something pretty significant.  
For the last 7 or 8 years, I have lived much of my life AFRAID!

I don't think I thought I was afraid, though I knew there were times when I quite easily bordered on, if not plummeted, into panic.  But I kept telling myself that I should cut myself some slack- there have been hard things that have happened, it will take time to get over it.

But...I'm getting ready to make a 'change'- a great change, but change none the less. (more on this to come!)

Did you know that CHANGE is one of the top 5 fears that people have?  The others are: 
Fear of failure, 
Fear of unworthiness, 
Fear of loss of identity, 
& Fear of Success.  

I had to admit within the last 7-8 years, I can point to a time when all of them have played a large roll.  But I'm a person that works hard to process and analyze how things are effecting me. (I'm a LIFE COACH for pity sake!)  Yet I was blown away by how so many of these messages are playing over and over in my mind & heart still. Messages that I have identified as lies and thought I had replaced with truth that I believed and could own.

Recently I was challenged to consider how the FEARS, and trauma, and painful life events have effected my physical being.  I know it has impacted me emotionally, spiritually, mentally.  But what about physical scars.  My immediate answer was that it has shown up in my weight- pretty obvious for all to see.  But...how else is it showing up.  The fact that I have Addison's Disease (google it for more info) is one factor of physical scarring.  My adrenal glands quite doing their job because of it.  I think I have much to learn yet about other ways fear has affected me. 

But I can attest to the fact, and think we can all agree, that we are designed so interconnected that our body, mind, heart and soul are all deeply impacted by things that happen in our life.  

The greatest fear I feel today isn't on the list.  Though I suppose they all play into it.  

My greatest fear (and I ask that you hold what I share with you prayerfully) is that I will once again experience a loss

 like losing Leisha-

Or leaving ministry

Of not being able to let go of a dream of being "pastor's wife"

 A young mom that I have admired for so long had brain surgery this week- I grieved- felt gut sick. I thought it was for her and her boys & her dear husband. My friend Pat helped me realize I couldn't speak of this young mom's mom.  As soon as Pat mentioned her, I broke out into tears.  My grief for the mom was actually the deeper grief.

Then this week a young woman was killed in a single car accident.  

When I heard, I felt the floor rising up- I felt my body feeling like collapsing, 

Though I stood- I was gut sick again.

Numb

Needing to cry

This young lady was 2 days older than Leisha. 

She had a painful journey in her teens, mainly through choices she had made, but she had recently made some very right choices and was honoring the Lord in her life. 

I could think only of this girl's mother.

Then of her 3 year old child.

My heart screamed "Lord, could I experience loss again and live? Loss that explodes my heart with violence so great that I can't even find all the pieces let alone put it back together again?  

So… I began to pray (granted - some of my earlier prayers regarding this were not so neat, but this is where I have come out today)

Even though I fear that this could happen to me again- the pain of losing Leisha

I still love and embrace my journey and what it has taught me.

Even though I fear that this could happen to me again-

I recognize that You, Lord were with me through it all- you never left me

You walked with me through the darkest, muddiest, deepest places.

It wasn't till I looked back that I could acknowledge you at times, but you were there.

Even though I fear that this could happen to me again

I remember the grace You gave in that moment

Grace that you are giving even now to these mothers and their families

Grace that you will give to me as I need it.

Even though I fear that this could happen to me again

I choose to believe You, to trust You to walk with me through anything.

I can love and embrace the journey ahead of me.

  

I can face the future with confidence and trust, joy and enthusiasm

Because I know I am not alone

Because I know that You have planted in me a dream

Because I know You have given me skills, abilities and a platform

Because I know that even now You are using my story to impact others

Because I know that my story will allow me to connect with these mothers and others

Because I have seen HOPE- and it is contagious!

Ah Lord God!  Thank you!

I CAN FACE THE FUTURE with GREAT HOPE!

I am not fearless- yet!

But with Your help, Lord,  I can do it afraid!

2 Corinthians 4: 6-12

For God, who said, “Let there be light in the darkness,” has made this light shine in our hearts so we could know the glory of God that is seen in the face of Jesus Christ.

7 We now have this light shining in our hearts, but we ourselves are like fragile clay jars containing this great treasure.[b] This makes it clear that our great power is from God, not from ourselves.

8 We are pressed on every side by troubles, but we are not crushed. We are perplexed, but not driven to despair. 9 We are hunted down, but never abandoned by God. We get knocked down, but we are not destroyed. 10 Through suffering, our bodies continue to share in the death of Jesus so that the life of Jesus may also be seen in our bodies.

11 Yes, we live under constant danger of death because we serve Jesus, so that the life of Jesus will be evident in our dying bodies. 12 So we live in the face of death, but this has resulted in eternal life for you.

Even More ALL IN Ponderings

It has been so amazing where all I have been that has impacted my ALL IN considerations

Yesterday it was Rennie's message from Psalm 1 at Crossroads.

Stand- Walk- Sit with the Righteous

Decisions set directions that lead to destinations

Where do I want to go?

Where are my decisions leading me?

(ouch- didn't like that picture in some things.)

What/ Who are influencing those decisions?

(ooo- now that's not fair.  He knows I had a hard weekend- I did some right things, but some of my choices were not so right- and some of the 'influences' not so healthy)

I told Ren I was only going to listen to his sermon once- it was making my toes bleed from getting stepped on so much. But I heard most of it 3 times.

Today it was in my reading - "The Call" by Oz Guinness

I have been impacted by this book tremendously in the past, but I picked it up again this weekend. 

I know what I am reading in not just for what God wants to teach me

But for what He wants me to share with others as well.

I wish I could share it all with you here- but I guess you can buy the book yourselves.

But here are some things that struck me in my journey…

'finding and fulfilling the purpose of our lives comes up in a myriad of ways

 and in all seasons of our lives…

 in all the varying transitions of life…

Negotiating the changes feels longer and worse than the changes themselves because transition challenges our sense of personal meaning.

Well, if ever Ren & I have been in a season of transition it is now- as both daughter's get married and our lives feel as if they are at a place of beginning again.  We do want to know that we won't waste what is left.  We want to know that our lives- no matter what we are doing- is making a difference for the kingdom.  We long to leave a legacy- not just to our daughters, and now their young men or future grandchildren.  We want to know that we are fulfilling the purpose for which we are here on earth.

At one point, we thought we knew what that was- but the past 7-8 years, it has been very clear that God is/has reshaped that vision.  And now we are IN TRANSITION again- even as we are being challenged to be ALL IN.

Kierkegaard wrote in his JOURNAL: "The thing is to understand myself, to see what God really wants ME to do; the thing is to find the truth which is true for me, to find the idea for which I can live and die."

Guinness points out that

• The SEARCH for purpose of life is one of the deepest issues of our experiences as human beings
• The EXPECTATION that we can all live purposeful lives has been given a gigantic boost by modern society's offer of the maximum opportunity for choice and change in all we do.
• The FULFILLMENT of the search for purpose is thwarted by a stunning fact: Out of more than a score of great civilizations in human history, modern Western civilization is the very first to have NO agreed on answer to the question of the purpose of life.

Hence ...more of us are seeking what few of us are finding!

Exasperating at best!

Yet he goes on to say...

Answering the CALL of our Creator is "the ultimate why" for living, the highest source of purpose in human existence.

I completely get this.  I say this often.  I KNOW this to be true.

But how do we know what the CALL of God is for us?

How do we know if we have found it, let alone living it out?

And if one person thinks they know it, how does that help me? Usually it only makes me more discontent in my own journey.  'I don't have it.  I can't find it.  Whatever IT is!"

But listen to this, Guinness defines CALLING as

 'the truth that God call us to himself so decisively that

Everything we are,

Everything we do,

Everything we have

Is invested with a special devotion and dynamism lived out as a response to his summons and service.

You know what I call that---- ALL IN!

Whoa!  Popped me in the face this morning!

Everything I am

Everything I do

Everything I have

Lived out AS A RESPONSE to God!

If I am going to RESPOND in an ALL IN fashion- then I have to be listening to what God is saying.

I must give intentionality to space in my life for that purpose.

That takes time- doesn't have to be a lot of time

That takes effort- to say no to something, even one thing,  that might distract me today

That takes willingness to be still- which can be hard. That means I might hear some of the things my head is saying that need to be quieted.  Sometimes that is the hard work.

But today, this day, Lord may

Everything I am

Everything I do

Everything I have

Be lived out in response to what you are CALLIng me to be.

Today, I want to live ALL IN!

How about you?

A morning with my friend!

It was hard to wake up this morning!  Just as it was hard to sleep last night!

My thoughts have been rambling- wanting so much to celebrate

But feeling the weight of grief so strongly.

But today, I had a reason to not dally- my friend was coming to visit

We hadn't had a chance to catch up since she went back to her home far away  last fall.

So much to hear about.

She's come from a very dark place - to a place of hope, of healing

In her own mind,

In her marriage

In her parenting

In her relationship with her parents

In her ability to have friendships, dear friendships

In her relationship with God

In her relationship to her church

Wow!  Such a transformation!

Her words to me were, "Thanks for not freaking out that I wanted to leave my husband and run away from my kids.  I just couldn't see anyway out then.  I didn't know how dark it had gotten."

I marveled.

I didn't freak out, because I remembered a time just like that in my own journey.  A time I wanted to run away, or more specifically end it- the rat race, the relationship- maybe even life itself.  It happens to all of us eventually.  Life is just hard sometimes- and then you combine it with emotional ups and downs, and unfulfilled expectations and unrealistic expectations and add hormones to that...it can be really hard and really dark.

I didn't freak out because I know what it is like to have just given birth to a third beautiful daughter, but feeling undone by it all.

So much joy- so much fear

What if I mess up?

What if I can't love them enough?

What if I don't teach them the right stuff or discipline them when I should?

What if I get angry and discipline them wrong?

What if…

What if?

I didn't freak out because I knew if you hung in there,

If you just did the next right thing- no matter how small that step might be

No matter how many times you need to ask for help

No matter how many people you need to lean on

Ever so slowly you begin to find the next 'light' place to be.

The shade may ever so slight- but that little bit of light gives hope…

For the next step

For the next decision

For the next healing place.

I didn't freak out because I had been there- done that!

I could have grace with her pain because I could connect hers with my own.

Most people's stories relate somehow with the stories of others.  

Oh it might be a different scenario,

Or a different season of life

Or not the same at all.

But we've all known fear

And anger

And disappointment

And grief

We don't have to know it the same way, to know it hurts.

Our pain may not be as bad- or it may be worse.

It doesn't matter.

We can know how someone else might be feeling just by connecting with our own story- and remembering what it felt like

To be betrayed

Or let down

Or rejected.

Or to fail at something really important to us.

Who is in your life that needs grace right now?

What part of your story do you need to recall to give it to them?

I wouldn't have missed this morning with my friend.

How sweet to hear her story of the amazing ways that she has found hope.

How powerful to hear of significant ways God is using her story to speak hope to others now too.

My friend, today- you were my joy gift!

Thank you!

One of those days!

Ever have a day that you can remember almost every detail of?
 
Today is one of those days for me!

I remember waking up with an agenda
I remember the car ride, tired eyes and silence,
I remember conversations, and laughter over shakes at Steak and Shake.
I remember a sour cream carton being pitched across the aisle only to come crashing to the floor- and more laughter and some clean up.
I remember wondering how I was going to make it without getting upset.
I remember wanting to laugh but feeling like I had to be responsible.
I remember dreams and plans being made.
I remember saying no when I should have said yes-
and saying yes when I could have said no.
I remember sparkling eyes, flush face, and fresh hair color and more dreams being shared.
I remember last words.
I remember caring arms, and tears shed and disbelief.
I remember a father falling to the ground in tears.
I remember hearing the scream.
I remember meeting a new face- one I will pray for forever.
I remember numbness, yet feeling fully alive!
Completely aware of so many thoughts and emotions and sensations.
Only beginning to realize that God must be bigger than I had ever known Him to be
for this to be able to be good
or for me to survive.
I remember humming her song on the way home- only to burst into tears when I recalled the words.
I remember not being able to imagine I could sleep- only to wake to a morning sky- the sun still long from shining bright, but already making her presence known.

Days like that happen only a few times in our lives.

Some things I will forever hold precious
Others bring sharp pain and often a gasp
Still others deep, deep gratitude and soft, gentle tears.

No, Days like that are one of a kind!
I never want to forget this day!

I love you Leisha!

More ALL IN Ponderings

So... my question this morning is...

is being ALL IN mean being WHOLEHEARTED?

I don't know...but in my search of scripture I found Psalm 103 again.  As I turned it into a prayer, I was struck by it's power in my journey.

Maybe it will encourage you in your ALL IN journey also.

Lord, 

Let all that I am praise YOU;
    with my whole heart, I will praise Your holy name.
2 Let all that I am praise You, Lord;
    may I never forget the good things You do for me.
3 You forgive all my sins
    and heal all my diseases.
4 You redeem me from death
    and crown me with love and tender mercies.
5 You fills my life with good things.
    My youth is renewed like the eagle’s!

6 Lord, You give righteousness
    and justice to all who are treated unfairly.

7 You revealed Your character to Moses
    and Your deeds to the people of Israel.
8 You are compassionate and merciful,
    slow to get angry and filled with unfailing love.
9 You will not constantly accuse me,
    nor remain angry forever.
10 You do not punish me for all me sins;
    he does not deal harshly with us, as we deserve.
11 For Your unfailing love toward those who fear him- that's me-
    is as great as the height of the heavens above the earth.
12 You have removed my sins as far from me
    as the east is from the west.
13 You, Lord, are like a father to his children,
    tender and compassionate to those who fear him- to me.
14 You knows how weak I am;
    You remembers I am only dust.
15 My days on earth are like grass;
    like wildflowers, I bloom and die.
16 The wind blows, and I am gone—
    as though I had never been here.
17 But Your love, Lord, remains forever
    with those who fear him- with me.
Your salvation extends to my children’s children
18     of those who are faithful to his covenant,
    of those who obey his commandments!

19 Lord, You have made the heavens your throne;
    from there you rule over everything.

20 Praise the Lord, you angels,
    you mighty ones who carry out his plans,
    listening for each of his commands.
21 Yes, praise the Lord, you armies of angels
    who serve him and do his will!
22 Praise the Lord, everything he has created,
    everything in all his kingdom.

Lord, Let ALL that I am praise the Lord.