Tuesday, February 22, 2011

The gift of their PRESENCE!

This weekend I had a dream! Some dreams come and go- but this one I couldn't let go easily- I pondered it over and over. This was one of those!

It wasn't a scary dream, or powerful dream or outstanding in any way really. It was just a dream about 'us'- my family! We were all there. We were 'together'!

It seemed - normal, natural, as it should be!

As I've pondered it this week, I've realized how much we accept/expect each other's presence as 'normal'. We take forgranted that people will be in our lives- always! And then something happens: a child goes to college, someone gets ill, or a loved one dies and we're not together anymore! We become painfully aware of what it means to NOT have them present in our world.

This morning, I woke with a strong desire to tell my dear family how grateful I am for their presence in my life. I sent a facebook message! (I know- how personal!) But I knew the girls would get it soon. And this was a time I wanted my world to know that I was indeed grateful for them.

I knew I would hear back from Cait & Brie and I talked to Ren on the phone because he's not great with facebook. But I found myself grieving, that I wouldn't hear from Leisha. I wouldn't know if she 'got the message' or not! She wouldn't be able to speak back to me!

And then...!

I went on with life! I just did the next thing I was going to do. I went looking in some old files for some notes I had taken a few years ago! And then it happened. It was the first file I opened- not having to do with family at all- there it was! I don't know why it was there. I had not seen it before - in the past 5 years, I have not opened that file!

There - first thing I saw at the front of that file- was a note from Leisha! In her handwriting, on her notebook paper - written for Mother's Day 2005 -was a note I had not read for 5 years- a note for me today! An immediate response to my facebook note to her. I even got it before Caitlin and Brielle responded on facebook.

Her message started... "I know that the past few years have not been all that easy..." I immediately began crying. These years since her death have been the most difficult in my life. But she didn't know that!

...all the while you have stuck in there with us and I am so thankful for that. I know you have heard this before, but I love you so much...Thank you for fighting for me, for giving me freedom to fight and find my own way to God. With God, I know that He will help me grow and to spread my wings, but He used you to do it. So thank you, Mom, for being all that God made you to be. I love you a million kisses! I win!! Always, Leisha"

A gift of presence! from heaven! Four and a half years after she left!

O Lord! Thank you for being so intimately acquainted with my ways that you would allow my sweet girls to speak into this day! All three of them!

Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!


  1. What a blessed gift from God! He cares.

  2. Wow! God is so faithful.

    Your daughters are blessings to you just as you are to so many others. Beautiful women...all of you!

  3. Kathy, this is so amazingly beautiful! You must have been one amazing mom to have such beautiful daughters. I am tearing for you right now! I didn't have a close relationship with my mom growing up. In fact I was terrified of her. Only now have I finally forgiven her and can love her for who she is. I am moved by your love for your daughters, and their love for you.

  4. I was deeply touched by the note from your daughter, and the spiritul moment that you would read it, just when the time was right!

  5. How great is the love the Father lavishes on us! Thank you for sharing this. I am so thankful to be able to personally recognize hugs from God when He sends them, just like the one He sent you. That wasn't always the case.

    A coworker recently lost her seven year old daughter to the flu, quite suddenly and painfully, as you can imagine. I would like to share this with her. Please know you and Leisha will be used by God to meet someone else's needs right now.

    Rejoicing that Leisha found her way to God and that you were able to get on with your day as she would have hoped.